My wife, as most of my readers will know by now,
She doesn't relish being countercultural with quite the same passion as I do, and dreading the reaction of those around us who don't understand our lifestyle choice and the priority we put on following the Church's teaching on life issues, she has asked me to keep this news quiet for a bit. Even with five children, we often draw stares or comments like:
- "It's called a CONDOM."
- "Time to tie those tubes!"
- "Are you done?"
- "Was it planned?"
I can't even begin to convey how offensive I find such remarks. They a complete invasion of our privacy and quite rude. No stranger in the supermarket would ever dare say to a family with no children, "Are you infertile, or just selfish?" So where do they get off making such comments about families with lots of kids?
At any rate, my wife and I had a bit of a dispute over how appropriate it was to hide our news from the people in our lives who don't 'get' us, and I agreed to postpone our formal announcement until a time of her choosing. This was a difficult decision for me, and I made it by sheer act of will for the benefit of our marital harmony. That act of will is the growth moment which I could not share before.